What can I do to protect my daughter?

children bedroom organization ideas image

Henry

For obvious reasons, I can't tell you our names. In 2007, my daughter was charged with killing a young boy in our old neighborhood. I can tell you that yes, she did it, but I won't reveal her reasons and they're not important. What is important is that while she was being interrogated, one of the police officers hit her so hard in the head it caused a TBI (traumatic brain injury). She was never the same after that, besides her learning, reasoning and other mental abilities becoming greatly diminuished (she even has trouble remembering words sometimes), her personality changed drastically. She used to be outgoing, haughty and provokative, now she's shy and always seems terrified of everything and everyone around her, I'm the only person she's really comfortable with.

Anyways, after that incident, I managed to get the judge to throw out all the evidence the police acquired and my daughter was released. We moved away afterwards and started a new life here, and things were going well, or as well as they could be, until last November, when one of my new neighbors came by, wanting me to sign some stupid petition, and recognized my daughter from the news and, of course, he told everyone else living in the neighborhood. We became pariahs, we've already had two incidents: one where someone wrote "Child Killer" on our wall during the night and another one a week ago: I was watching TV in my bedroom when I heard my daughter screaming in the garden, I came down and found her pinned down by a man who kept asking "Where is he?! Where is he?!", anyways I went to pull him off her, we got into a fight, I broke his nose... it was a mess. It turned it out his son hadn't come home after school and he didn't know where he was, but later that night they found him... the stupid kid had run off with his girlfriend or something. I tried talking to the police, but after they learnt who she was, they were less than eager to help us.

Look, I'm not going to claim my daughter was "just misunderstood" or some cliche like that, I know she wasn't a good person and that what she did was awful, but she stopped being that person after that troglodyte nearly caved her skull in. Now she's just a simple, dim-witted girl who's scared of her own shadow, and even if you don't believe that, if any of you are parents then you know I can't abandon her.

I'm at a loss, I can't be near her all the time, I have to get back to work soon but I'm terrified to leave her alone, I'm scared they might try to kill her. What can I do to protect her? If you have any ideas please share them with me.

Answer
I'm sorry for that..I think the best thing to do right now is to speak to your neighbors tell them the way you feel about everything happening right now, everyone deserves a second chance tell them clearly that you know your daughter actions were bad but she is a human being allowed to commit mistakes maybe not as easy to forget but after all she is still your baby girl...don't confront them cuz you would become equally as bad as them you giving them motive to not trust you and most importantly your daughter too...don't just sit there make your daughter interact with other people, join a community organization if they don't know tell them right away and if they don't want her, don't push it move on they would eventually forget and forgive....I'm pretty sure that is she was release then there was more than one person in that room that believed she had a chance in life and deserve it...a t the end of the day she was proven innocent and they can't take that from you

Tips on being a Stay at home mom on less then 40K a year?

Sophia's M

This year was the worst for my husbands job and we just had a daughter in November.
I am a stay at home mom living on my husbands 40K a year job. With my job and the cost of childcare, I would only make enough to cover child care and our auto insurance (Being 23 and 24).
We are now a one car family, and I stay at home, but I am looking at other ways to save money and what to you guys do? I am a first time mom, so any ideas would be great.

Answer
My husband made about 30K this year (and we live in Northern California, not a cheap place to live!), and I am a stay at home mom (thank goodness his benefits are great!) He works in a very specialized construction and it was very slow this year :( So I feel for you. I don't have the earning potential to make it worth me working either.

We eat in, meal plan and I try to make meals with overlapping ingredients, and have gotten pretty good at using ingredients that are around the house to make meals instead of shopping again. Check out http://supercook.com it is very helpful for that. You enter in everything in your kitchen, and it pops up with recipes with those ingredients, or some that only need a couple more things to make something. We actually eat a lot better now that we are broke ha ha ha!

We cloth diaper which is wonderful, the diapers were bought by my mother as a gift and the ones we have are a little pricer, but there are some great less expensive options out there too! Diapers add up very quickly in cost... Breastfeeding and cloth diapers have been our saving grace I think... heh. Also, have you looked into a program like WIC? It is wonderful and has helped us out SO much, I am very thankful for it.

I buy my son's clothes from second hand stores (they have some very cute stuff in like new condition!), we are Baby Led Weaning him for solid foods since he was six months (he his now ten months) so we just make a little extra portion for him of what we are eating (so much cheaper than having to buy him his own seperate food) and he was exclusively breastfed until 6 months, which is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics and World Health Organization, also much cheaper which is a great side benefit.

We don't spend money on extra things, ever. It kind of stinks sometimes, but once in a while we will treat ourselves to something nice after going without long enough to have a ittle for something :) Honestly it doesn't bother me, I have my little man, my husband and I feel like we live rather comfortably all things considered. We still seem to have cable, a phones, we have two cars, live in a two bedroom apartment (albeit small), use our heater and have enough to eat. I think we will be shutting off the cable though for the extra money and also I think we are WAY too addicted!

Basically, you figure out how to make it work. It takes some sacrifice of a few luxuries but it's not too bad. Try not to let it stress your relationship. Things like this can really help bring you closer together, it has for us :) Good luck!

Powered by Yahoo! Answers

Title Post: What can I do to protect my daughter?
Rating: 97% based on 9598 ratings. 4,8 user reviews.
Author: Unknown

Thanks For Coming To My Blog