I sort of regret adopting a puppy?
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I have overwhelming anxiety and panic attacks after adopting a puppy. I'm not sure I'm the right match for this amazing& adorable 6month old border terrier mix. It's only been 3 1/2 days but I've had this feeling since I got home with him. I live in a one bedroom condo I bartend and work 2 jobs I also have a very small shared yard on the water... In theory I thought this would be fine. I'm an extreme neat freak, now my small condo smells like dog poo and all my furniture/decor has been stored away so that it is not destroyed.my bathroom is no longer my bathroom it's turned into his home/ toilet.dont get me wrong he's not a little devil he's just a puppy I get that. I've just never owned a dog before and feel like I bit off more then I can chew! A big part of me wants to give him back...he deserves a big yard and a family that has the energy that I don't. I feel like I bad person for thinking this way but I can't have panic attacks for the next 10/15 years:-/ I need advise from someone that's been in the same situation b.c I'm losing my mind over it!
It's a no kill shelter. And I'm not a bitch I set out to do this b.c I really wanted a dog. I love animals but obviously didn't realize the work that goes into having one considering I've never had any pets growing up!if the answers aren't ment to help then please keep your nasty comments to yourself. My intentions were and still are good and I only want the best for this puppy but I also have to think of myself. If I'm unhappy he will sense it. I just wanted to know if this is normal if there is some sort of postpartum for ppl that have adopted pets. I'm not looking to be told I'm a shitty person b.c I know I'm not!
He's not having panic attacks... He's happy as a lark. Tons of treats tons of toys I take him out as much as I can he sleeps in my bed even thou I bought two diffrent beds for him. He's an amazing puppy and seems super happy. I'm not an abusive mean person. I'm just not sure we're the right match...
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My apartment used to be immaculate until I rescued a 2 year old american eskimo/bichon frise mix, so I understand your frustration
I'm gonna be blunt. I HATE it when people are selfish and think "aww puppies are so cute I want one" and then get one and realize it's not all cuddles and best dog ever. You get out of a dog what you put into it. If he's not worth it to you then give that puppy back while he's still a puppy and has a great chance of being adopted by someone that will and remember this the next time you agree to take responsibility for a life that completely relies on you.
NOW if you decide to keep him there are ways that you can deal with all of this.
Get a dog pen. FIRST of all. unlike your bathroom, once the dog gets used to the pen it will become his safe place.
Nature's Miracle no marking does work but it's flawed because the dog will just find another place to pee....so keeping that flaw in mind if there's something that you absolutely do not want pee'd on spray it with nature's miracle no marking and it will be spared....as long as you do it every couple days.
Odoban use this instead of febreeze it's what hunters use so animals don't smell them and what hospitals use to remove odors and anti bacterial spray....you can use it as multi purpose to clean too but i'd use it for like wiping down a counter quick not a tough job. You can get it at walmart and home depot and it's cheapier than febreeze and works better.
POOO BAGS!!!!!!! get the actual poo bags and always pick up any poo accidents with poo bags and tie off the bag. I also recommend getting the strong scented trash bags i get the lilac ones by hefty i think i dunno the orange box LOL also a trash can with a well fitting lid will cut back that odor too
Now something absolutely everyone should have in the cleaning supply arsenal "kids n pets" this stuff is like the tide to go of "mother f******* did you seriously just mark my bed/couch?" all you do is pour some on and let it dry...works on EVERYTHING i.e. Red paint off a bed and it's cheap.
Dog body spray...you can get doggy body spray I have a raspberry one, great for inbetween baths
Taking him to the groomers regularly and brushing him inbetween will dramatically reduce shedding issues
get a lint brush that is fabric it's got a plastic handle(usually gray) and a rough fabric (usually red) and they work amazing at removing all fur lint fast from EVERYTHING and last forever...and dirt cheap.
TREATS!!! When training your puppy do not scold or yell you're going to confuse and scare him and make him scared of you and he'll just do what he was going to do when you're not looking. Don't rub his nose in the pee! People think this works but it doesn't and it's cruel...even if it's just a minute later he's forgotten what he's done and doesn't understand other than your being mean to him. What you can do is pick it up with a paper towel while holding your puppy hold it up to him (while being calm) so that he can smell it from a distance and then walk him outside and sit him and the paper towel down on the ground (same for poo..) My dog has alwasy quickly grasped that he needs to go outside he just doesn't realize how to ask...he's just starting to catch on but again I have an older dog they are more challenging.
Have a very specific designated area for him to go potty (especially if you live some place that snows....your not gonna wanna have to join the ice capades to take him out lol). Always take him to go "potty" in his spot BEFORE taking him for a walk
Harness! One that the leash hooks to the front preferably. a) because all that pressure when he pulls on his throat is dangerous b) I can't remember what it's called if it's an endorphin that's released or what but there is something in their throats that when constricted it causes them to literally become stressed out. A stressed out puppy is not a learning puppy.
look up "loose leash training" on youtube
give lots of encouragement and always always praise when he does something you want him to do and don't focus on the "bad dog" so much you want to teach him that good things happen when he does good things and NOTHING happens when he doesn't do the right thing. Eventually he learns "If i walk beside mama i get treats and praise and we walk!!! When I walk away from mama she stops walking til i stop pulling, i stop getting treats and praise" they quickly get it...just like the "ooh if i pee outside i get treats i better save it til we go out again"
It's patience and love commitment and a lifestyle change...if you're willing to do that for him then please if yahoo answers allows people to contact each other please contact me i'll help you all I can I have spent hundreds of hours reading and researching and youtubing lol. There's other cleaning solutions and tricks too I'm totally happy to help anyone who is willing to make the commitment but if you are not then give him away right now!
My apartment used to be immaculate until I rescued a 2 year old american eskimo/bichon frise mix, so I understand your frustration
I'm gonna be blunt. I HATE it when people are selfish and think "aww puppies are so cute I want one" and then get one and realize it's not all cuddles and best dog ever. You get out of a dog what you put into it. If he's not worth it to you then give that puppy back while he's still a puppy and has a great chance of being adopted by someone that will and remember this the next time you agree to take responsibility for a life that completely relies on you.
NOW if you decide to keep him there are ways that you can deal with all of this.
Get a dog pen. FIRST of all. unlike your bathroom, once the dog gets used to the pen it will become his safe place.
Nature's Miracle no marking does work but it's flawed because the dog will just find another place to pee....so keeping that flaw in mind if there's something that you absolutely do not want pee'd on spray it with nature's miracle no marking and it will be spared....as long as you do it every couple days.
Odoban use this instead of febreeze it's what hunters use so animals don't smell them and what hospitals use to remove odors and anti bacterial spray....you can use it as multi purpose to clean too but i'd use it for like wiping down a counter quick not a tough job. You can get it at walmart and home depot and it's cheapier than febreeze and works better.
POOO BAGS!!!!!!! get the actual poo bags and always pick up any poo accidents with poo bags and tie off the bag. I also recommend getting the strong scented trash bags i get the lilac ones by hefty i think i dunno the orange box LOL also a trash can with a well fitting lid will cut back that odor too
Now something absolutely everyone should have in the cleaning supply arsenal "kids n pets" this stuff is like the tide to go of "mother f******* did you seriously just mark my bed/couch?" all you do is pour some on and let it dry...works on EVERYTHING i.e. Red paint off a bed and it's cheap.
Dog body spray...you can get doggy body spray I have a raspberry one, great for inbetween baths
Taking him to the groomers regularly and brushing him inbetween will dramatically reduce shedding issues
get a lint brush that is fabric it's got a plastic handle(usually gray) and a rough fabric (usually red) and they work amazing at removing all fur lint fast from EVERYTHING and last forever...and dirt cheap.
TREATS!!! When training your puppy do not scold or yell you're going to confuse and scare him and make him scared of you and he'll just do what he was going to do when you're not looking. Don't rub his nose in the pee! People think this works but it doesn't and it's cruel...even if it's just a minute later he's forgotten what he's done and doesn't understand other than your being mean to him. What you can do is pick it up with a paper towel while holding your puppy hold it up to him (while being calm) so that he can smell it from a distance and then walk him outside and sit him and the paper towel down on the ground (same for poo..) My dog has alwasy quickly grasped that he needs to go outside he just doesn't realize how to ask...he's just starting to catch on but again I have an older dog they are more challenging.
Have a very specific designated area for him to go potty (especially if you live some place that snows....your not gonna wanna have to join the ice capades to take him out lol). Always take him to go "potty" in his spot BEFORE taking him for a walk
Harness! One that the leash hooks to the front preferably. a) because all that pressure when he pulls on his throat is dangerous b) I can't remember what it's called if it's an endorphin that's released or what but there is something in their throats that when constricted it causes them to literally become stressed out. A stressed out puppy is not a learning puppy.
look up "loose leash training" on youtube
give lots of encouragement and always always praise when he does something you want him to do and don't focus on the "bad dog" so much you want to teach him that good things happen when he does good things and NOTHING happens when he doesn't do the right thing. Eventually he learns "If i walk beside mama i get treats and praise and we walk!!! When I walk away from mama she stops walking til i stop pulling, i stop getting treats and praise" they quickly get it...just like the "ooh if i pee outside i get treats i better save it til we go out again"
It's patience and love commitment and a lifestyle change...if you're willing to do that for him then please if yahoo answers allows people to contact each other please contact me i'll help you all I can I have spent hundreds of hours reading and researching and youtubing lol. There's other cleaning solutions and tricks too I'm totally happy to help anyone who is willing to make the commitment but if you are not then give him away right now!
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