When did your child start throwing tantrums?
Q. My almost 15 month old threw a big one when we left the park, complete with back arching, kicking, screaming, etc. I felt bad. What do you do during tantrums? When did your kids start throwing them?
A. Around your child's age they start to get big. My daughter Sarah (child #3) was especially prone to them, because she is very strong-willed, has lots of energy, and shows her emotions easily. She would be super excited, or super giggly or really upset. She was sweet, but definitely not a subtle child. I never rewarded her for throwing a tantrum or gave her what she was crying and screaming about, but she would just get very upset or angry, sometimes just frustrated over a toy or situation, and this was her outlet. Sometimes she was overtired, overstimulated, or hungry and that was part of the reason that she would get out of control.
Handling tantrums:
1. Make sure your child doesn't get too tired, too hungry, or too stimulated as much as possible. This can prevent some issues.
2. React calmly. Your child may be out of control of his own emotions, but as a mom you have to keep your cool. If you can, continue what you are doing (i.e. leaving the park, shopping, eating), and respond to them calmly in a lull (I'm sorry, you can't have that today/it's time to go home now). Sometimes it worked for my daughter if she was deliberately fussing on purpose to say, "wow, look at all those people watching you cry".
3. If the child's actions or noise is a huge distraction where you are (library, church, etc), remove them calmly and quickly.
4. If you are at home, you can put them in a crib or in their bedroom and tell them, "I'm sorry you are mad/sad. It's ok to be mad/sad, but I don't want to hear screaming. It's too loud. You can come out when you are done crying. If you want to tell me something, you need to talk nicely and not scream." Sometimes they come out screaming and you have to deposit them back again. Eventually they will wear out and realize it's a lot of effort and it's not accomplishing much, but they can still have that emotional outlet if they need it. Sarah learned this, and eventually if she would get very frustrated or angry and start yelling she would run to her room all by herself and throw herself onto her pillow on her toddler bed and cry without me having to say a word. Then she would get over it and come out like nothing happened and I would hug her and we would talk about it.
We once were traveling across country and Sarah was cranky. We had stopped at a McDonald's for lunch and I asked her if she wanted to sit in a high chair or a booster. She kept changing her mind. The first two times I switched her because she asked. Then I said this time is the last time to choose. She chose the booster and I got her into it and she changed her mind and wanted the high chair I said no. She started screaming and crying. There weren't a lot of others in the restaurant and she toned down to a major sulk and she wouldn't sit in her booster. I told her ok, time out over here until you are done crying and fussing. When you are done you can come sit in your booster and eat your food. I had her sit near the table. We just started eating without her and left her food in front of the booster on the table. She sat there and sulked and pouted and whined a little for a few minutes. While she was sitting there I went to get some ketchup and overheard a lady (who obviously had no children) say, "Look at that, that's child NEGLECT." I restrained myself from dumping fries on the lady because she didn't know what she was talking about, and definitely didn't know my child. By the time I got back to the table my child had climbed up in the booster and was happily munching her kids' meal.
It's really hard having a strong-willed child when they are toddlers. The great part is that they grow up, and then that strong will benefits them because it turns into determination and drive for whatever they really want to do. Although it was a struggle when she was small to handle her moods and her will, this daughter was also the one who when she was a teen, always kept her room neat and always did her schoolwork, and she found an outlet for all her energy first in soccer, then in tennis. She's now 19 and in college, very happy, driven to succeed, and is very good at channeling her emotion into tennis, artwork, her job, cleaning her apartment etc.
Good luck!
Handling tantrums:
1. Make sure your child doesn't get too tired, too hungry, or too stimulated as much as possible. This can prevent some issues.
2. React calmly. Your child may be out of control of his own emotions, but as a mom you have to keep your cool. If you can, continue what you are doing (i.e. leaving the park, shopping, eating), and respond to them calmly in a lull (I'm sorry, you can't have that today/it's time to go home now). Sometimes it worked for my daughter if she was deliberately fussing on purpose to say, "wow, look at all those people watching you cry".
3. If the child's actions or noise is a huge distraction where you are (library, church, etc), remove them calmly and quickly.
4. If you are at home, you can put them in a crib or in their bedroom and tell them, "I'm sorry you are mad/sad. It's ok to be mad/sad, but I don't want to hear screaming. It's too loud. You can come out when you are done crying. If you want to tell me something, you need to talk nicely and not scream." Sometimes they come out screaming and you have to deposit them back again. Eventually they will wear out and realize it's a lot of effort and it's not accomplishing much, but they can still have that emotional outlet if they need it. Sarah learned this, and eventually if she would get very frustrated or angry and start yelling she would run to her room all by herself and throw herself onto her pillow on her toddler bed and cry without me having to say a word. Then she would get over it and come out like nothing happened and I would hug her and we would talk about it.
We once were traveling across country and Sarah was cranky. We had stopped at a McDonald's for lunch and I asked her if she wanted to sit in a high chair or a booster. She kept changing her mind. The first two times I switched her because she asked. Then I said this time is the last time to choose. She chose the booster and I got her into it and she changed her mind and wanted the high chair I said no. She started screaming and crying. There weren't a lot of others in the restaurant and she toned down to a major sulk and she wouldn't sit in her booster. I told her ok, time out over here until you are done crying and fussing. When you are done you can come sit in your booster and eat your food. I had her sit near the table. We just started eating without her and left her food in front of the booster on the table. She sat there and sulked and pouted and whined a little for a few minutes. While she was sitting there I went to get some ketchup and overheard a lady (who obviously had no children) say, "Look at that, that's child NEGLECT." I restrained myself from dumping fries on the lady because she didn't know what she was talking about, and definitely didn't know my child. By the time I got back to the table my child had climbed up in the booster and was happily munching her kids' meal.
It's really hard having a strong-willed child when they are toddlers. The great part is that they grow up, and then that strong will benefits them because it turns into determination and drive for whatever they really want to do. Although it was a struggle when she was small to handle her moods and her will, this daughter was also the one who when she was a teen, always kept her room neat and always did her schoolwork, and she found an outlet for all her energy first in soccer, then in tennis. She's now 19 and in college, very happy, driven to succeed, and is very good at channeling her emotion into tennis, artwork, her job, cleaning her apartment etc.
Good luck!
What things do i need for the bedroom in a new house?
Q. Starting new, have absolutely nothing so list everything, even the most obvious stuff. WE have 5 people and a toddler in a 4bedroom 2 bath.
A. One thing to keep in mind with toddler - do you have stairs? You may want to look into child safety gate at top.
Also - get safety covers for electrical outlets, if they are not already built to be safe (some new ones are already tamper resistant).
As you move in, keep in mind where you will store chemicals and anything else you want to keep out of reach. You can buy cabinet latches which will help to keep the kid out of lower cabinets.
Make sure that the home has operating smoke detectors, and preferably a carbon monoxide detector.
Furnishings should mostly be common sense, and will also depend on your budget.
Also - get safety covers for electrical outlets, if they are not already built to be safe (some new ones are already tamper resistant).
As you move in, keep in mind where you will store chemicals and anything else you want to keep out of reach. You can buy cabinet latches which will help to keep the kid out of lower cabinets.
Make sure that the home has operating smoke detectors, and preferably a carbon monoxide detector.
Furnishings should mostly be common sense, and will also depend on your budget.
More than half of our home's electrical outlets have stopped working over the years.?
Q. We tried to change out 2 of the outlets but they still don't work. Is this possibly a wiring issue? Or do I need to check/replace something else? Breakers are not tripped. It started with our bathroom outlets going kaput and then a few in our living room stopped working, and then my kid's bathroom outlets, and now their bedroom ones! This is driving me crazy!!!
Somebody told me that I may have to replace circuits? Or breakers???
Somebody told me that I may have to replace circuits? Or breakers???
A. Yeah, if your breakers still work, it seems you have a problem in the wiring and you should get it looked at immediately. Electrical problems are nothing to ignore for years, potentially a big fire hazard.
Breakers do stop working, changing them out is fairly easy, but need to turn off the main breaker first, unscrew the wire from the breaker, pop it out and do the reverse with the new breaker. Generally, an entire new circuit means new wiring as well as a new breaker.
Second answer is correct, need a voltmeter in order to figure out exactly what is wrong.
Breakers do stop working, changing them out is fairly easy, but need to turn off the main breaker first, unscrew the wire from the breaker, pop it out and do the reverse with the new breaker. Generally, an entire new circuit means new wiring as well as a new breaker.
Second answer is correct, need a voltmeter in order to figure out exactly what is wrong.
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